From the recordings The Stories We Carry and Burnt Toast
“Burnt Toast” is a song I wrote about the little things in life that become the biggest memories. Originally written as something to leave behind for my children, grandchildren, family, and friends, it's about life's simplest lessons: Be nice. Do what's right. Love deeply. Show up for those who matter. After losing loved ones this past year, its message means even more. Life isn't always easy, but it's a blessing. Sometimes our greatest legacy is the love we leave behind.
Lyrics
[Verse 1]
I wasn’t trying to raise you perfect
Just trying to raise you strong
Every story
Every quiet car ride
Was practice for when I’m gone
I tucked my love in the small things
In the way we spent our days
In bad jokes
Burnt toast
Birthday calls
And the words I’d always say
[Chorus]
When I’m not around
Let the simple things surround you
A kind word
Shared bread
A sunset in the yard
Be nice
Do the right thing when it’s hard
When I’m not around
Let your gentle side astound you
Let your stubborn heart bend for someone new
And if you ever miss me
Let these little lessons carry you
[Verse 2]
Sometimes it’s okay just to listen
To sit still
Let the world roll through
Watch the clouds
Watch your children breathing
Let the quiet comfort you
You don’t have to fix every moment
You don’t always have to win
Just be the one they trust to show up
That’s where the joy begins
[Chorus]
When I’m not around
Let the simple things surround you
A warm hand
Deep laugh
The dog asleep at your feet
Be nice
Do the right thing when you’d rather retreat
When I’m not around
Let your grateful heart remind you
That the biggest gifts are easy to ignore
And if you ever miss me
Open up that everyday door
[Bridge]
Time runs fast
Faster than we planned
So find a way to slow it down
Count your breaths
Hold their hands
Let today stand its ground (oh)
[Chorus]
When I’m not around
Let the simple things surround you
Morning light
Kids’ shoes by the door
Be nice
Do the right thing even when it feels sore
When I’m not around
Let the love in you confound you
Let it spill in everything you do
And if you ever miss me
Know my favorite lesson
Is still living on
Right there in you